Feeling Guilty About Compliance to Shunning Mandates?

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By Patrick Haeck During my many lectures in educational institutions and communities, someone almost always asks me if I feel guilty about what I did as an Elder in the high-control religious group I grew up in. While I realize the damage I’ve done—in particular my compliance to mandated shunning—my answer is categorically “NO!”. And yet I know many people …

Dorene Del Real

Dorene Del Real: Breaking Free from Fear and Shunning

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I was born and raised as a Jehovah’s Witness in the 1970s and 80s, a second-generation member of the faith. When I was just an infant, a Witness came to my mother’s door, and she soon began studying and attending meetings—despite my unbelieving father’s disapproval. One of my earliest memories is of My Book of Bible Stories, a children’s book from …

Sarah D: A Life Broken by Mandated Ostracism

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I was born to Jehovah’s Witness parents, and from a very young age, religion controlled every aspect of my life. My parents made enormous sacrifices to remain loyal to their faith: no demanding or well-paid jobs, no credit for buying a house, and above all, a life entirely dedicated to religious activities. We attended three meetings a week, and every …

Suzanne Snyder

Suzanne Snyder: I Lost My Family to This Religion

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I sit on the edge of my bed, staring at the faint glow of my phone screen. It’s been years, but the memories never fade. Some nights, they return with suffocating intensity—my sister’s voice, my brother’s laughter, the cold, heartless silence that followed their deaths. I was born into it. The world of Jehovah’s Witnesses was all I had ever …

Derrick Miller

Derrick Miller: Shunned at 15, Abandoned for Life

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I was born into a fourth-generation Jehovah’s Witness (JW) family in the U.S., a lineage that began with my great-grandfather, who was considered one of the “anointed.” My upbringing was deeply immersed in the faith—family members worked at Bethel, my father was a ministerial servant striving to become an elder, and my entire social world revolved around the Witness community. …